Everyone has that "gut feeling" when it comes to catching that significant other in the act. Either an event occurs to where you just can't help but to think "Well, why in the hell are they doing this differently?" or "I aint never seen that perfume/cologne before!" But what if all the things that you were going out of your way to find out, was really something that could've been spotted right up under your nose. A listed called "10 Ways to Find out if He's Cheating", provided by a blogger named Jennifer has been read by many women and commented on as well. But in this case I'm going to make this a co-ed topic, cause we all know that us women have tricks up our sleeves as well. Here we go:
1) He/She starts taking better care of themselves.
-I may even joke with my boyfriend when he jumps fresh for no apparent reason and say "Who the hell you tryna get cute for?!" If they're so interested in buying newer clothes and working out to make their enhance their appearance more than normal then don't take the excuse, "I'm just tryna keep myself looking good for you!"
2) His/Her taste in music.
-An ex of mine always told me that I should quit listening to so much R&B because it's depressing, so of course he always listened to rap, but after a while I started to see that change. If they start contradicting themselves on music then they're probably being influenced by others.
3) He/She spends a lot less time with you.
-A normal routined day of spending time together is looked forward too because it's what happens all the time. But when it gets to the point to where he/she is ducking and dodging any free time to spend with you in general then that's a red flag.
4) He/She has new friends you've never met before.
-Now we all know that people gain new friends and associates all the time, but some people you just know that they didn't become "best friends" overnight. When he/she begins to talk about someone that you've only heard of once and they're all of a sudden kicking it tough and calling each other ace boon coons then something's not completely truthful.
5) He/She hides their cell phone texts and calls.-This is pretty much self explanatory. When a cuddle buddy calls you text them before hand to tell them that you're going to pretend that their your homegirl or homie. You won't give the password, Marcus! This can also go for Facebook or Twitter. Closing out of windows as your gf/bf walks by is a total obvious target, and a red flag.
6) He/She treats you differently.
-Usually when a guy or girl treats you differently it's either because they're so "stressed" because of school or work when it's really something else. He may be worried about pledging for a fraternity or her being a sorority, he/she may be worried about not making the grades they're supposed to; but really he/she may be trying to get you to break up the relationship.
7) He/She accuses you of cheating.
-Here's the guilt trip. When you're accussing him/her of cheating then they may feel the need to retaliate in guilt and say that you're the one cheating because you're doing the same thing that you THINK they're doing. It's a cold game, but it's played like that all the time. It's called turning the tables.
8) He/She kisses you differently.
-When something is done the same way all the time but all of a sudden changed it brings up a WARNING/CAUTION symbol. Why did they kiss you on the forehead instead of the lips like they usually do before saying goodnight. It may be small things, but it's totally noticeable; especially when they hardly ever use tongue again.
9) His/Her friends or family begin to ignore you.
-This is quite a cold game, but it happens because they usually don't want to get involved with what their friend or relative is doing to you. 9 times out of 10 they will not snitch so the best thing to do is to stay distant.
10) He/She blocks you from Twitter or Facebook.
-When it gets to the point where you make him/her mad but with the smallest thing and decides to block you as a friend on Facebook or as a follower on Twitter then that means they've been waiting on this day to have an excuse to block you and to cause a huge argument to end the relationship. After all you're still in the relationship...why else would they want to block you?
The moral of all of this is if you really want to know if your partner is cheating, just ASK. They may lie but everyone has a conscious. And if you do find out that they are cheating then women, I know you saw that part in the movie "This Christmas" with the baby oil and the belt....and men just cut her off period! It's a cold world out here, bundle up :)
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